I tells how to make a fantastic first impression
by greeting people with gusto, remembering
their names, describing your work in an interesting
way, keeping a conversation going, listening
actively, and gently moving from small talk
to deeper things--in short, ways to be more
present for other people. Making friends
is easy, keeping them requires us to be authentic.
Part II is about authenticity--what it is and how to practice
it in all your relationships. Gary describes authenticity's spiritual dimension,
which includes recognition of what it means to be a "self." He
shows the value of risk, gratitude, tolerance, and forgiveness in giving
shape to the free and ever unfolding beings we all are.
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a perfect relationship, the need to forgive would never
arise. Because no relationship is perfect, we make
a conscious choice to release the perpetrator of an
injustice from further judgment, to put aside our resentment
and desire for retribution, and let healing begin.
We neither annul nor sugarcoat the offense. Instead
we recognize it as part of the ebb and flow in the
life of any relationship and agree to move forward
rather than dwelling on what cannot be undone. We acknowledge
the reality of the injury but accept the contrition
of the person who caused it as sincere and make room
for another chance.
kind of forgiveness is authentic because it
takes account of the relativity of life, including
the imperfection of all our relationships and
moral judgments. It also acknowledges that
all of us inflict injuries on others and, therefore,
stand ourselves in need of pardon. Without
forgiveness, love is doomed. Without love,
few of us would find much to live for.
You'll love Gary Michael's book because
it doesn't waste time on academic
theories that have no use in the "real
world." You'll learn fun and fascinating
ways to connect with other people
in professional and social settings,
and how to get every introduction
off to a good start so you can turn
strangers into friends. Read it and
Sam Horn, author
of "Tongue Fu!" and "ConZentrate"
Michael shows how to make friends and keep them
forever. Readers of this book will enjoy more
confidence in opening relationships and joy in
-- John Haien, professor of philosophy
seeking to become more truly him or herself will
benefit from Gary Michael's discussion of authenticity.
Through personal experience which he candidly
relates, Dr. Michael has attained profound insight.
He shares it with humor and lucidity."
Judith Briles, author of "The Confidence
authenticity section was eye opening. So simple
and so straight to the heart of the matter. And
revelation like I have never seen in a first-person
narrative -- in characters in a novel, yes, but
not from the author's soul right onto the page.
Very courageous. The chapter on intimacy showed
me a clear path, in a simple way, to the realization
of what I've always sought in a relationship."
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